A family of support groups for people who have been affected by alcoholism in their family is Al-Anon. Groups like these have been formed with the sole aim of being beneficial and therapeutic to such families.
Al-Anon was founded in 1951 as an organization for providing support to friends and relatives of drunkards. Al-Anon was founded by Lois Wilson, also called Lois W, 16 years after her husband founded Alcoholics Anonymous (AA). Dealing with the difficulties of providing support to a recovering alcoholic during her life, she decided to create an organization for people similar to her. Al-Anon is a self-supported organization which exists thanks to financial contributions from members. The family of the addicts usually get tips on how they can help their loved ones and live comfortably with them.
The fight against alcoholism is a joint undertaking and that is the objective of this support group.
Alcoholism Being A Family Illness
The people close to the alcoholic person are also affected in one way or the other and Al-Anon seeks to help them also overcome the challenge they might be facing. A clear-cut system of friends and family members support is an integral part of recovery from alcoholism.
Lack of understanding the cause of their loved one's drinking problem makes family members suffer self-condemnation and also not know how to deal with the problem. These problems are handled by meetings and members are assisted to understand alcoholism as a family illness.
Alateen- Al-Anon Groups For Teens
The youth are also affected by alcoholism in their family, so Al-Anon has formed a wing to help the youngsters called Al-teen.
Young people are permitted to meet with others of their own age at these meetings, making the experiences more similar and advantageous.
Reasons To Partake In An Al-Anon Group
Alcoholism has affected many people directly and indirectly and you will meet these people in this program. All members have worked through some issues though the details may differ. The main advantage of Al-Anon is searching people who have had similar experiences to talk to. These meetings are widespread all over the country. Call us on 0800 772 3971 to help you find one near you.
What Happens During The Meetings
Al-Anon gatherings are friends and family members of alcoholic addicts. If you are worried about somebody's heavy drinking or if the drunkard's lifestyle somehow affects your life , Al-Anon will help you.
The outcomes of these meetings is what scares some people from coming. What you must remember when you attend an Al-Anon meeting:
Al-Anon is anonymous, which is highly essential
Everyone in that room is affected one way or another by the alcoholism of a friend or family member
No One is made to speak about their problem or discuss it, just encouraged to
Different Types Of Meetings Are Held For Everyone
Some may be more beneficial for you than others.
Al-Anon is not an organization which is based on any religion
The meetings are concentrating on the 12-step program which has been designed by Al-Anon
Al-Anon meetings are carried out under a slogan that encourages all attendees to "take only what they like, leaving the rest." The shared stories, of experiences, hardships, and victories encourages members to know how to handle their experiences.
Every meeting begins with the reading of Al-Anon's twelve-step program. These twelve steps are an abridged, almost verbatim, quote from the same-name program of Alcoholics Anonymous. There is a person to hold your hand as you go through the different stages of help. The 12 Steps are as follows:
We did admit we were powerless over alcoholism, that our lives became unmanageable indeed.
This is the point where alcoholism recognised as a conditioner that has affected them all.
Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.
Trying to change a person that has been affected by alcoholism can be a huge task and lead to breakdown.
They understand to accept that they can revert to sanity, after acknowledging they are powerless.
Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him.
It is important that members learn to let go.
Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.
Self-discovery plays a huge role in making the steps; and this is its beginning.
They then come up with how they have been affected by the condition and what they might have done to hurt others or themselves.
Admitted to God, to ourselves, and to others human being the exact nature of our wrongs.
Thats a study of each listing in the group members moral inventory, which enables them to delve into each problem.
Got fully ready to have God eliminate all the flaws of character.
This is a very important step, as it is the complete acceptance of the process of recovery supported by a Higher Power.
Humbly ask him to remove our shortcomings.
Members are assisted by this part of the 12 Steps to understand how they may have been dominating or judgmental toward an addict and how that is counterproductive.
Made a list of all persons we had harmed and be willing to make amends with them.
The road to recovery is a personal effort.
Many people blame themselves for their loved ones addiction.
They must agree to pardon themselves and make amends.
Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.
When you decide to make amends, Then follows the action of doing so.
Went on making personal inventory and each time we were wrong, we admitted it at once.
Going through the 12 steps is a process which will take time.
There is also a possibility for relapse when trying to recover in the program.
Step 10 provides a recognition that this is an ongoing process.
Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious effort with god as we understood him praying only for the knowledge of his will and the power to carry that out.
This step is a personal, spiritual one; it comprises acceptance and comfort in view of the great stress of recovery.
Having had a spiritual awakening as a result of these steps we tried to carry this message to others and to practice these principles in our affairs.
The last step includes perception that the persons journey is not over yet.
After this, group members are encouraged to support others by sharing what they have already learned.
Learning About The Higher Power
Although Al-Anon's program is not a religious one, members do experience insights into higher power. Nevertheless, the term " higher power" is open to imply as one's own individual beliefs. Al-Anon gladly accepts members from all religious traditions and denominations; nobody is forced to alter their beliefs here.